thorts of other people : Brett Fish

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Meet Chantelle Finaughty

There’s always a fine line between helping/supporting your single friends, and trying to ‘fix’ your single friends. Too often, what is well meant on the part of the marrieds, is sometimes interpreted as them trying to fix their single friends as if they’re broken or unfulfilled. This is not to say that single people don’t need or want any help from you, because we very much need your support. Being single does not make me [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-22T16:21:01+02:00February 22nd, 2014|friends and enemas, inspire-ations, marriage, pain and Hope, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Marriage Year 2 : Meet Elaine and Dave Kim

We got married December 28, 2012 You may come upon a day, or days, in your marriage where you reach the end of yourself and may even dare to say aloud in an empty room: "I don't want to be married anymore." You might even say it twice so God knows to take you seriously. This might sound utterly shocking, or, utterly familiar. To the former I say, may you always get along and resolve conflicts well; please don't [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-22T03:01:59+02:00February 22nd, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, pain and Hope, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Marriage Year 2: Meet Emma and Gordon Whiley

Hey there, I’m Emma. Married to the very handsome Gordon for a year and a month. There are a million things I could write about being married but I thought I would focus on one thing we try and do every week that we find super-duper helpful. First though, who are ‘we’ you ask? The husband half of this team is Gordon, auditor-extraordinaire, dish-washing king, lover of all things cricket and Iron Man and devotee [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-20T21:16:25+02:00February 20th, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|5 Comments

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Meet Craig Botha

This is Craig's adaptation of someone else's comments: Ten Things Your Single Friends (like me) Are Tired Of Hearing 1) “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking!” This is typically where your advice starts. ”It’ll come along when you least expect it,” is also “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking“ This is a ridiculous and retarded statement. We’re programmed to look for it. It’s in our genetic make-up, God make us this way. That’s [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-20T08:03:59+02:00February 20th, 2014|friends and enemas, inspire-ations, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|5 Comments

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Intro

i was 35 when i got married and so i still feel like i have some kind of grasp and authority when it comes to speaking for/with the single community and definitely have a huge heart for them, especially those who are a little older and wanting to be married [as not all of them are - marriage is definitely not the end point finishing line of you-have-made-it'ness although it has too often been presented [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-20T07:59:32+02:00February 20th, 2014|friends and enemas, inspire-ations, marriage, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|11 Comments

Marriage Year 2: Meet Steven and Megan Cottam

The thing that we have been most struck by in our second year of marriage is the joy and importance of being united in common work, even at those times when we work separately. When we were dating and when we were engaged, we had these starry eyed visions of what it meant to live a common life together - sharing breakfasts and dinners together, laughing together the laugh of those-in-love while we did the [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-19T21:19:12+02:00February 19th, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Taboo Topics: Losing a child – meet Jess Kelly and Henry

This is a repost that Jess graciously allowed me to share - you can find the original over here and you can, and really should, consider following her blog, 'Jess in Process' - in this piece she talks about losing her four year old son, Henry, 14 months ago, to a brain tumour. FULL DISCLOSURE ***WARNING: GRAPHIC/DISTURBING CONTENT*** How have you been, Jess? I hear this from time to time. It’s been 14 months since my 4-year-old [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-19T12:52:22+02:00February 19th, 2014|God stuff, inspire-ations, pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|1 Comment

Marriage Year 2: Meet Sally and Benjamin Shannon

Benjamin and I got married on 31 March 2012. If I have to pick one thing that I have learnt since then... The gift of not needing everything to be perfect right this moment. I am (to an extent, can’t really claim the creative genius aspect that apparently come with it!!) a resident of “perfect country” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlXcLU8xEJQ to see what I’m talking about!). I want to do things right and I want to be the “best Christian” I [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-18T23:08:06+02:00February 18th, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Marriage Year 1: Meet Kerstin and Carl

What we learned in our first year of marriage. We haven't been married for a full year yet, our wedding was on the 06 April 2013. But we have learned so much already. I must confess that our first year hasn't been that straight forward either. Carl proposed to me just before I got very sick. I had shown signs that I wasn't well, but we didn't realise that individually the symptoms weren't too bad. However [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-18T00:45:55+02:00February 18th, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Marriage through the years… part Intro

there is no blueprint for marriage. because every marriage is made up of two different people and so it will never look the same. but that doesn't mean we can't learn from each other. we all have different stories but there are similarities and areas of overlap and moments of intersection that teach and instruct and inform and encourage and challenge. which is what this series is all about. i asked a bunch of friends [...]

By brettfish|2018-11-07T08:50:30+02:00February 18th, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|38 Comments